Wedding Preps Updates: Suppliers and other things

Updating this entry, 2 months, 1 week and 6 days to go before the big wedding. And I decided to use #biye051813 for IG entries. Another good news, tickets are booked :-)

Three months, 2 weeks, and 4 days to go and it will be our big day.
How far am i in the wedding preparations? Here's the checklist of suppliers:

1. Ceremony: Our Lady of Mt. Carmel
2. Reception venue: Oasis - Orchard Ballroom
3. Reception Food & Decor :  RichGold, we already discussed initial detailings, will meet again a month before the wedding to finalize things together with the OTD
3. OTD coordinator: Events Malditas
4. Photographer: Bryan Yap
5. Videographer: Aisle 1401
6. Lights and sounds: c/o Oasis
7. Designer for bride and entourage: Jef Albea
8. Hair and make-up: Irene Manigo
9. Wedding rings: Aireen Mistica, got our rings too but maybe will send it back for resizing
10. Flowers: Headbands and Headbands - send the pegs, awaiting for the sample before proceeding for productiom
11. Emcee: Missy Ferrer-Litao - she gave her program and I already included my inputs, will discuss again for final flow of program
12. LCD and projector: c/o Oasis
13. Wedding Cake: c/o Oasis (Hearts and Bells) gave the peg already
14. Cake topper: Khristine Borbe, got it! and I love it :-)
15. Photobooth: c/o oasis (Pose and Print), I have an idea for the lay-out, will discuss it with them two months before the wedding
16. Invitations: Wink - got the sample, will email them for mock-up sample  got the 80 pieces invitations already, put the envelope linings too and I'm ready to do the simple lettering before distributing.
17. Preps Venue: Discovery Suites
18. Confirmed officiator: my uncle, Mnsgr. Roque Reyes
19. Souvenirs: picture from photobooth, kissing bells, teabag
20. Gifts for principal sponsors and officiator: Bangladesh Tea
21. Candles: Got it from Mt. Carmel already, I will decorate it when the wedding is near
22. Cord: hand-me-down from my sister and added our initials
23. Arrhae: my parents arrhae that was used also by my sister, will have to give for electroplating
24. Dessert Buffet Bar: PurpleDish (from W@W Auction), I'm still waiting for a date with them!!!
25. Missalette: edited it already and will just send it for printing
26. Quartet: Manila String Machine, I already emailed our choices of Music - and Theodore already checked and okayed the music selections.
27. Guestlist - done with my 100 guests list.

Yes! Even on my own, I was able to accomplished a lot! But I still have other things to book and awaiting for decision and confirmation from my H. Those are:

1. Bridal car - i'm thinking of just renting a Car for Hire instead of getting a Bridal Car  bought a Mercedes benz C180 Groupon voucher worth P2895 for 4 hours plus P750 for additional fuel, inclusive of the driver, supplier is G Luxury Cars c/o Sir Gabs
2. Groom's transportation - looking for a van
3. Hotel Accommodations where H and his family will stay before the wedding   booked GoHotel already
4. Hotel Accommodations and Car transportation for our Ilocos Itinerary
5. Lechon - my MIL's special request, will get it from Elar's

The DIY's:
1. Growing up AVP - target date APRIL
2. Table numbers  already printed and I'm happy with it
3. Guest sheet/ guest book printed 50 pieces already and will add more after our prenup pictorial, will use the ready made template i Made
4. ring and coin pillows - I gave it to a friend already, just waiting for them to finish it its with me already and i liked it :-) so unique

Documents:
1. Posted the Wedding Banns already and will get it on February 20th, will submit it to the chancery together with the Marriage Certificate from NSO - got the result of the wedding banns already but I need to go back to Mt. carmel because the groom's name is incomplete.
2. Photocopy of the Priest Celebret ID and CRASM

On the other hand, I already change my status and name in SSS and SunLife. But I haven't been to Pagibig headoffice to file for Permanent Departure from the Country as I don't have plans of continuing my Pagibig contribution. I will apply for a new passport by April and will inquire about Bangladesh visa too. I'm not sure if I can apply for "No Visa Required" here since I'm married to a bangladeshi citizen or if I still have to apply for tourist visa and will just apply for NVR in Bangladesh. I have to apply for "dependent visa", will do this after i 'm done with my passport renewal but before that, I have to get a Guidance & Counselling Certificate of Attendance from the Commission on Filipino Overseas! Will make a separate entry regarding this passport renewal for spouse of foreign national.

As early as now, I'm ready to let go and let God. I just want all my invited guests to be there both in the ceremony and not just in the reception. I will definitely miss planning for a wedding but I also want to be done with it hehe! :-)

Welcome Year 2013

How time flies... it feels like it's only yesterday (February 2012) when H proposed to me and then I started preparing for our May 2013 wedding. I was counting a year of preparation and now i'm down to 4 months and 17 days. I'm excited for so many reasons.

Lots of "life changing" things happened in the year 2012. Some of it were good and others were not so good but I learned to see the "good" in goodbyes and learned the lesson too. I'm thankful for everything, both the high and the low. 

HIGH:

• my engagement to H
• family reunion last February 
• hongkong trip with my family
• Trip to Disneyland :-) :-) :-)
• H & I's first out of the country trip together and his first time to meet my family 
• my nephew and my niece celebrated their 1st birthday
• met new friends and cyberpal
• quality time with my Philippine based family and friends
• danced in public after 15 years to the tune of "Gangnam Style"

LOW:

• end of my work contract - but because of this, I have more time with my family, friends and my wedding preps.

Missing Bangladesh and the Festivities

Bangladesh may not be the best country to live in nor a place to tour, but it has its own charm, if only you open your eyes and mind, you will be enchanted by this small and young country too. What I miss most of Bangladesh aside from the friends and family I left there, is the winter season from late November to early March. It's a very pleasant weather. In the city, the temperature gets cold like Baguio City during the 80's, while in the hilly parts, it gets too cold that people die because of the cold temperature.

Early morning winter, it's getting denser.

And since it's winter there, it's also considered the "Wedding Month". One of H's cousin is set to get married this month. They already held their "holud" last wednesday and the wedding is today.

The engaged couple wears yellow or orange for the Holud 

Holud is one of the many festivities in connection of a wedding celebration. It's commonly practice in Muslim religion and Hindu religion, and it became a Bengali Tradition. Some Christians/Catholics adapts this celebration also, but I have yet to attend a Holud for a Christian or catholic couple.

Holud is a bangla word for turmeric and it's also the bangla word for color yellow. Traditionally, holud for the groom and for the bride is celebrated separately, but nowadays, people celebrate it together. It's similar to a bridal shower or to a stag party without the "hanky-panky" or "kinky games" or "naughty games". In Holud, the couple are usually dress in color yellow or orange traditional bengali clothes, and the family members’ clothes are also color coded, and the guests are expected to wear something yellow or orange too. The couple are seated on the stage where guests will have to scrub them with turmeric paste or spread the turmeric paste in any expose skin of the couple, and feed them with sweets afterwards. This practice is the “cleansing of the couple” before they enter the married life. If we look at it, it’s similar to the confession we do prior to the wedding celebration. We have to be clean before we face the Lord and the church community and accepts the Sacrament of matrimony.

Sometimes, they also prepare a program of dancing and singing.

Dance presentation during gaye holud of another cousin

In H's family, they don't practice this tradition, that's why we didn't have a Holud party, but if given a choice and chance, I want to experience the Bengali traditions also, but definitely, I will have a "Boubhat party".

My second time to wear a saree at my staff's holud party. (2008)

Tradition is a guide and not a jailer. - W. Somerset Maugham

Another thing that I will miss this winter season is the "mustard field" in bloom.

He don't bring me flowers anymore, but he made sure to give me a field of flowers.

Last winter, H and his family planned a trip to the village so that I can see and have a picture in the mustard field. This one was just a small patch of mustard field, but nevertheless, it was awesome. They say dark spirits lurk around the mustard field that's why they find it weird that I want to go and see and have a picture in the mustard field. 

Pre-Cana Seminar

Pre-Cana or Preparation for Marriage Counselling is a requirement in a Church wedding. Since H and I are based overseas, we requested from the Chancery of Cubao to allow us to have our pre-cana abroad.

Bibaho Prostuti Shohaika (Marriage Preparation Help)

Our pre-cana was administered by a seminarian. And there were times that the discussion was awkward since there were topics that are “taboo” in BD like the sexuality and family planning. We had a one hour session every night from 730pm to 830pm for 5 consecutive nights. It’s a good thing that it was Ramadan during that time, the roads going to the church were traffic free all the time, that it took us 30minutes from the house to the church, and 45minutes from the church to the house which usually takes 1 hour and more during regular days. We consider it our “date” too because we go out for coffee or snacks after the session before going home.

During the seminar, I’m so proud with H because he shared lots of things. He is a man of few words and he doesn’t talk about his emotions but during the seminar, he opened up and shared in the topic too. I want to share what we had discussed in the 5 nights seminar.

1^st session: the seminarian, Brother Ronald Costa, discussed what Marriage is. He asked H and me why we decided to get married and why we want to marry each other. Marriage is a covenant as God is present in it, and it is the first vocation. I can’t recall anymore our answers but H mentioned that he decided to marry me because he wants to spend the rest of his life with me already, he doesn’t want to wait for the weekend for us to see each other but he wants to see me before going to sleep and as soon as he wakes up.

We talked about the 7 Sacraments too and of course I memorized the 7 sacraments that’s why when I can’t complete the 7 sacraments, I made sure to Google it once I reach home. And of course, I’m correct, I already did mentioned the 7 sacraments but Brother Ronald made a mistake by telling me that Matrimony and Holy Orders are one.

Before we ended the 1^st session, he gave us an assignment. We have to write 5 Good Qualities and 5 Bad Qualities of each other and we will discuss it next session.

2^nd Session: We discussed first the 5 qualities. I was surprised I wasn’t able to write 5 bad qualities of H. He isn’t perfect but I can’t seem to find any bad qualities except the obvious hehe. And I was worried that he will be able to write 5 bad qualities of me. We didn’t discuss further with our good qualities, Brother Ronald just reminded us to continue with our good qualities. On the other hand, we discussed the bad qualities and what are the possible causes of it and if we can fix our bad qualities. And well, our bad qualities are fixable.

Brother Ronald shared to us the ingredients to a Happy Conjugal Life: faithfulness, respect to each other, full consent both intellect and will, accepting each other, belief in God and to each other, praising/appreciation of each other, open and constant communication, living according to our means (family budget), healthy sexual life, quality time for each other and forgiveness.

The 3^rd session was awkward since the discussion is about the reproductive system and sex. H didn’t share much during the discussion because he is uncomfortable with the topic. While me, I find it uncomfortable because I’m talking to a Bangladeshi. Yes, they are also advocates of Natural Planning and Brother Ronald reiterated that many times during the session. At the same time, he mentioned to us to be responsible parents and to cultivate a loving relationship with our spouse.

The 4^th session, we talked about family spiritual life. It’s not only the physical body that needs nourishment; our spirit/soul needs nourishment too. We need to pray, attend the mass regularly and do good. We have to balance our time, time for self, time for spouse, time for kids and time for others. We have to be the role model to our children and nourish them according to the teaching s of the Church.

The 5^th session was just a review of the whole session and giving of certificates.

The pre-cana class may not be the best session but nevertheless, it enlightened us about married life, our responsibilities to each other and to our family. H is now much aware that he really needs to be more supportive of me especially that I don’t have my family and friends in BD. He is my support and my beacon.

"I take you to be my Best Friend, my faithful Partner, and my one True Love. I promise to encourage you and inspire you and to love you truly through good times and bad. I will forever be there to laugh with you, to lift you up when you are down and to love you unconditionally through all of our adventures in life together." 

W@W Christmas Party 2012

The first thing I did after getting engaged was to join the Weddings At Work or W@W. It’s an e-group for engaged couples. I’m familiar with this group way back 2006, and I made a promise that I will join this group once I’m (formally) engaged too. I will definitely write a separate post regarding this group after my own wedding. But for now, I will just share the happiness and fun I’ve experienced during the recently concluded W@W Christmas Party 2012.

Last November 16, W@W held an early Christmas party for all w@wies and suppliers. It’s the best party I’ve attended so far.

It was great meeting the faces behind the signatures and names. It was a great event where brides-to-be, grooms-to-be, and newly-married couples get together and meet each other. Most of us knows each other and talks to each other thru the group and emails only. And most of us met each other for the first time that night, but the camaraderie was so natural. It seems like we know each other already from long before, and we are just having a reunion. The only common thing I think that binds us all together is that we are all members of this wedding community, W@W.

The party was a blast. It’s a very fun, successful and memorable event. All the big names in the wedding supplier’s community shared their talent and services for the love of W@W. Even the W@wies themselves shared their time, talent and creativity in making this event more fun and successful. For the first time in the history of W@W Christmas Party, the W@Wies had a dance presentation, and I’m proud that I’m one of the dancers. 

The last time I performed was 1997, that’s more than 10 years already. I’m glad I can still dance even if I’m not that great dancer anymore heheh! And no, I didn’t volunteer myself, I just saw my name was included in the performer’s list, and I’m not one party popper. I’m glad to dance in public for the love of w@W J We don’t have much time to practice together; we only have two nights to practice as a group. And during the practice, it was fun. I feel like I’m transported to my highschool days, where we used to have our dance practices for days until wee hours. It was fun practicing with you guys April (Pres), Icar, Fau, Arlene, Krystle, Neren, Erin, Gracey, Jhellie, Tintin, Donna, Vanessa, April Rose, and the supportive grooms also Manny, Jack (inalay talaga ni vanessa), Dino, Pierce and Jonas and Benjie. Hats off to Sir Abet for being cool, so with Bong Sare :-) Thank you also to Ms. Benz for staying with us during the practices and for "feeding" us. Thank you to Czar also for taking the video while we are doing our dance performance during the party. And also, thank you so much to Nicolai, our witty dance choreographer, you rock!

But like any other event, this isn’t a one-man show. It will not be a successful one without the joint efforts of all the suppliers and members. Since I’m a proud W@WIE and I really did enjoy the party, it’s just appropriate to give thanks & credits to whom it’s due. So please, bear with me if this post will look like an advertisement but take note, this isn’t a paid advertisement, I’m just one satisfied client :-)

The Venue: Blue Leaf

It was my first time to see this place, and I was in awe. It’s a beautiful place. How I wish I have book my wedding reception here but Taguig is quite far for all my guests. And, we had our 2 nights dance practice here, and we can never be thankful enough for them in accommodating our request.

Caterer: K By Cunanan

I’ve been reading lots of good feedbacks regarding their food and services. Too bad they are not included in the accredited suppliers of my wedding venue. I thought I will never get the chance to taste their food, but dreams do really comes true J My tummy was full even before dinner though because of the cocktail that they served. Yummylicious perfect! And the venue? It’s a winter wonderland theme.  Am I dreaming of a white Christmas? Too bad I don’t have good pictures of the venue.

Yes, I'm on diet :-)

They served cocktail plate also when we were seated already. Can't remember all, but those balls are cheese balls and it's yummy.

During the cocktail hour, there is also a dessert bar buffet by Joy San Gabriel. Another tick in my checklist. The pastries are all soooo yummy. Yeah, I tasted each pastries/cupcakes in the buffet. I just have to!

W@W Awards AVP: Mayad Studios

I liked their style even before. Great! If only I have a fairy godmother who will pledge for them :-)

Coordinator: Just Like ours - Queen David

They are the best at what they do.

Mobile, Lights & Sounds: Sensitivity

Even if they were not included in the Top 10 W@W Suppliers, their support to W@W never wavered. That's one good customer service. 

Stage Design: 4th Wall

The Stage; my picture doesn't give justice to it

Bonggang-bongga ang stage. Let me grabbed the words of Ms. Benz; I just hope I will not be charge of plagiarism :-)

"Ahh 4th Wall's support to W@W knows no bound. Had we asked for his liver I wouldn't be surprised if he would give it. That is how deep the love and bond and relationship has been. It is borne out of our beginnings. When both W@W and 4th Wall (Balay Kandila pa sila noon) was nobody and we barely had enough to make it thru the month, we were together. Nobody was happier than each other when one would attain success. Slowly W@W made its mark and started to find ways to gain financially, 4th Wall started carving their niche and slowly made it big, then bigger, then as big as they are na now. But no matter how much success we got, we would never forget those days when we eat by hands over dinner contemplating what to do with our future. Kaya siguro feeling nila pag W@W humingi ng favor walang nang bilang bilang, pati kaluluwa ibibigay nila basta kaya nila."

Who doesn't love photo booths? I'm addicted to it and I think I have a total of 13 pictures that night.

Nice Print / Style Diary

All I want for Christmas is you, Honey! (NicePrint / StyleDiaries)

Party Treasures

with my wedding photographers, Bryan Yap & Pie (Party Treasures)

FunposePhotobooth

TeraLifestyle

This is something new, and I find it really cool! It’s a touchscreen photobooth and you can draw or write something on the screen and it will be printed with the picture. For that, I had at least one picture with my H.

my picture with Honey by Tera Lifestyle :-)

Cocktail / Mocktail: Margarush and DNC Mobile Bar

I’m still checking my budget, but I really love to book any of the two for my own wedding! Yummy!

I didn't bother to bring out and use my camera anymore during the event because we have photographers from ImagineNation Photogrpahy namely Larry Leong, Alex Ruelo and Kimi. And well, I’m also waiting for the pictures from the other w@wies, I’m just going to tag and grab hehe!

Coffee Unplugged / Grace Osio. Who doesn't love coffee when you have yummy cakes and pastries. Indulgence!

They are not professional Hosts but the party was filled with fun and laughter, Bong Sare and CJ Lagman. Bong Sare even showed his dancing talent with us hehe!

Aside from the "Kendeng Girls and Grooms", there are also other w@wies who shared their talent and creativity. Hats off to OJ for the beautiful W@W Christmas Logo, button pins and stationary design.

with OJ

our W@W Christmas Pin, designed by OJ

The W@WIES Corner and Ribbon wall was arranged, organized and manned by Joed and Allan, Czar, Donna and Cecille. I hope I didn't miss anyone. :-)

And to all who sponsored the raffles, thank you so much for your generosity. I think the most exciting and most awaited part is the "veluz shoes for grab", I don't know what they call this game but there were 24 pairs of veluz shoes, where all the ladies can fit the shoes, and if the shoe fits, it's yours. I had three tries, but after the third try, I realized I'm not Cinderella because my prince charming already found me! (Naks! Hirit ng hindi nanalo!)

Before the riot begins...

if the shoe fits: Veluz Shoes 

Thanks for welcoming us "Overseas W@WIES" also. Thanks for the magic bayong lootbag :-)

Overseas W@WIES with Ms. Benz and Sir Abet

Pinoy treats for Balikbayan like me :-) Thanks W@W!

The party was really a blast! and a success, from the food, the venue, set-up, prizes, lootbags, games, and up to the smallest details. If it was a wedding event, I'm sure the Bride and groom including there guests will be in seventh heaven!

But more than anything else, thank you so much to the founders of W@W, Sir Abet Rana and Ms. Benz Rana. Thank you for creating this community. It's really a big help to all b2b & g2b, especially to the overseas based b2b and g2b. There's no W@W in the first place if there's no Mimma & Didda who spearheaded in creating/organizing/founding this community :-) More powers to you both and to the W@W community!

W@W with suppliers

Dreams and Dilemma

When I was younger, even until now, I always want to be a “stay-at-home-mom/wife” so that I can focus all my time and energy in taking care of my family, doing my hobbies, and at the same time managing a small business. It is a dream especially the business part, because I need a huge amount in order to invest in a business, and even after working abroad, I don’t have that huge amount to begin with.

From the very beginning, I told H about this childhood dream. He didn’t say much about it that time, maybe because that time he was not yet the marrying type. But, after a while, he told me that he wants me to continue working even if we get married, it’s not because he can’t support me but because he wants me to have my “financial independence”, and an extra income is good. I didn’t understand it that time. I was okay with the idea then that I will manage and do the budgeting of the family income. I was comfortable with that idea. Until, I lost my job unexpectedly.

The company I was working with was/ is in financial crisis due to mismanagement, due to that, the company decided to cut my contract earlier. I was devastated because my timeline was distracted due to the sudden change.  Suddenly, unexpectedly, I’m a defendant, I don't have that much "financial freedom" anymore. My expenses are controlled, I need to be a wise spender. I’m H’s legal wife already, but until now, I’m still uncomfortable with the idea of me being his defendant. I miss shopping without the feeling of guilt, I miss buying good things for myself because I have my own hard-earned money to spend , I miss buying gifts for my families, for H and his family, I miss treating my family for dinner or lunch, but don't get me wrong, I'm not living beyond my means, I just simply can afford this things. Now, with the sudden change in my financial status, I need to tighten the belt, spend wisely, avoid impulse buying, and again, I’m back to drooling over the stuff that I want to buy but I can’t because I have to save the money for something better or more important, and I don’t feel comfortable spending the money given to me. As a matter of fact, most of the monetary gifts that I usually receive, I don’t spend them at all, unless I’m in dire need of money. So, the same feeling goes to the money that I receive from H, it’s a gift so I should not spend it!

Right now, I’m using whatever savings I have for my monthly expenses. I divided it already and I have a fixed monthly allowance that will last until my wedding day. It’s the same amount as the basic salary now. With this small amount, and without fixed income, I can’t afford to splurge or spend more than that.  I’m trying to look for a job, but I think I’m facing a problem that most ex-OFW faces. It’s hard to look for a job here but it’s harder I think for ex-OFW to look for a job here since first, the employers have doubts of ex-OFW staying longer, they have doubts that you are just looking for a job for the meantime while you don’t have yet contract abroad but eventually, you will leave the job as soon as you get an offer overseas. Second, maybe they find me over-qualified because of my accomplishments and achievements and yet, under-qualified for the higher or highest position. Third, salary is too high even if you tell them it’s negotiable. Fourth, maybe they think you will start influencing other employees to go abroad too. I’m also considering applying for call-centers but I really don’t like to work in graveyard shifts since I need the rest and time to prepare for the wedding also, thus I prefer a regular working hours.

I’m already preparing myself mentally for this kind of set-up; after all, it’s my childhood dream to be a “stay-at-home mom/wife”. I was just push into it unexpectedly. H is very supportive about it already. He is always telling me that I don’t have to worry since he can take care of me and our future family. Of course, I can’t expect the same lifestyle that I was used to when I still have a job but we will not be poor also. We will live comfortably and within our means. Now, I just have to set my mind and try not to worry too much. I’m just so thankful that H has more faith in God than I do.

Ephesians 5:22-33

22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For
the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his
body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also
wives should submit to their husbands in everything.

25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself
up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing[a] her by the washing with water
through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without
stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same
way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his
wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they
feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— 30 for we are
members of his body. 31 "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother
and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh."[b] 32 This is a
profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33 However, each
one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must
respect her husband.

Colossians 3:19 - Husbands, love [your] wives, and be not bitter against them.

1 Peter 3:7
-7 Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and
treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the
gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.

20 Things I want to tell to Engaged and Newlywed Women

20 Things I want to tell to Engaged and Newlywed Women

1. Marriage is made up of two good forgivers. Because every marriage is made up of two sinners. (Romans 3:23)

2. At some point, you will have to learn that life isn’t all about you. (Philippians 2:3)

3. Don’t listen to women that tell you that passion fades…it doesn’t have to! (um…all of Song of Solomon)

4. Don’t give up. Love never fails. (1 Cor. 13)

5. He wants a kind wife, not a maid or another mother. Be nice. (Galatians 5:22-23)

6. Give your husband the gift of your respect. He needs it more than you know. (Ephesians 5:33)

7. Be mindful of your expectations.

8. Honor the Lord above all things. Colossians 3: 17

9. Find your worth and security in the Lord, and don’t look to your husband to meet all of your needs.

10. Be very careful about reading romance novels, they set you up for an unrealistic view of romance.

11. Real romance is finding that one spot in the crook of his arm to snuggle into, that shared look over the dinner table when the kids are acting crazy, and the way he fixes the leaky sink when he is dog-tired after work.

12. Love is about relationship. The more I love my husband, and seek a relationship with him, the less critical and duty-bound I become. It is similar to my relationship with God.

13. Be thankful for the husband you have. Accept him as he is, not for what you want him to be.

14. Don’t compare!! Don’t buy into the game of comparing him with anyone else’s husband.

15.The Biblically “normal” marriage is filled with joy, connection, laughter, and peace. It’s not free of hurt feelings and conflict, but they know how to process their pain with one another so that they live more often in a meadow than at the scene of a train wreck. This is not the average marriage, but it normal – -because it is a visible display of Jesus’ relationship with His bride (Ephesians 5:22-33).

16. Your marriage is a testimony! “The #1 evangelistic tool in America (the world) today is a successful marriage, because it’s a living miracle!” – Dr. Joe Aldrich, former president of Multnomah Bible College.

17. Pray for your marriage. Pray hard.

18.I’ve heard that is gets better with age.

19. Where there is God, there is always hope. Even for the most broken marriages. “With God all things are possible.” (Matthew 19:26)

20.Marriage is commitment and sacrifice. But it’s also the best, most wild ride you will ever have with your best friend.

Source : http://gracefullmama.com/20-things-i-want-to-tell-engaged-and-newlywed-women/